I've always had problems with the butch / femme label thing.
We have butch guys, and guys who are really into clubbing - the whole spectrum.
You boys did all the butch stuff, and I filed my CD collection.
I always wanted to make proper films, butch films with lots of big trucks and big sweaty sparks and do it properly.
In the restlessly nurturing mind's eye of my mother, there resides a vastly better lighted and less deliberately butch apartment that is organized to be shared with a member of the opposite sex.
The good news, what there is of it, is that the few remaining teeth that I do have are apparently good teeth, strong teeth, firm, manly, positively butch teeth.
Venison with braised red cabbage sounds like a hefty, butch dish.
Fry also goes through butch biker phases; for a previous interview with me he roared up in red and black leathers.
And how is the knowledge that all gay men aren't effeminate and all straight men aren't butch going to help you pick between the men exactly?
Number one: while I personally quite like butch women, it's not a taste that's shared by every woman in the world - or even most of them.